What have I done now...
Once again I am sorry for my absence. As I said in my last post, I hurt my knee, so I have been going to physcial therapy a few times a week. Last weekend I woke up with a pinched nerve in my neck or back. I have sharp pains that occur in my right arm due to this and because I am right handed, this makes things extra challenging. So now I am faced with additional therapy for my arm. All in all it has been pretty sucky.
I am taking all sorts of meds, muscle relaxers, pain killers, anti-inflamitory drugs and also the medicine I take for depression, so I feel like a walking drug store.
This too shall pass, I just wanted to explain my absence.
I had bad news from two friends over the last week or two. First, my one friend's old neighbor and friend had an eleven year old child who commited suicide. I was just so sad for the family. I can not imagine finding my child dead from their own doing. It is hard for me to understand what drove such a young person to this sort of end. Another friend who is expecting a baby just found out this week that the baby (a boy) has Trisomy 18, which is a rare and almost certainly a fatal birth defect. The baby has no stomach and has some other problems, too. According to the Genetics specialist she and her husband spoke to said that 98% of the baby's with this defect do not make it to full term and that most parents faced with this situation end up terminating the pregnancy. It is just so sad. I saw my friend's oldest daughter today and she told me about the baby. I could tell she was upset, but I told her that she needed to give her mom and dad lots of love, because they will need it.
After writing about those two things I realize that even though I have some physical problems right now I am very lucky. My children are alive and healthy. It is funny how things can help to put things in perspective.
I hope that you are all well!
I am taking all sorts of meds, muscle relaxers, pain killers, anti-inflamitory drugs and also the medicine I take for depression, so I feel like a walking drug store.
This too shall pass, I just wanted to explain my absence.
I had bad news from two friends over the last week or two. First, my one friend's old neighbor and friend had an eleven year old child who commited suicide. I was just so sad for the family. I can not imagine finding my child dead from their own doing. It is hard for me to understand what drove such a young person to this sort of end. Another friend who is expecting a baby just found out this week that the baby (a boy) has Trisomy 18, which is a rare and almost certainly a fatal birth defect. The baby has no stomach and has some other problems, too. According to the Genetics specialist she and her husband spoke to said that 98% of the baby's with this defect do not make it to full term and that most parents faced with this situation end up terminating the pregnancy. It is just so sad. I saw my friend's oldest daughter today and she told me about the baby. I could tell she was upset, but I told her that she needed to give her mom and dad lots of love, because they will need it.
After writing about those two things I realize that even though I have some physical problems right now I am very lucky. My children are alive and healthy. It is funny how things can help to put things in perspective.
I hope that you are all well!
posted by Linda | 3:30 PM
11 Comments:
how traumatic about the 11 year old...so horrifying.
I am sorry that you are going through such a rough time. This may sound crazy but I am trying out acupuncture and have heard from tons of people how great it works. If you don't improve from the other methods it may be worth a try :)
Thanks for your commment, it was sweet.
Both news saddened me..those are such traumatizing things that could happen to anybody's family. And I do hope you'll recover soon. It will soon pass..and it's true what you said..of all the unhappy things we experienced, we should be thankful that we have healthy kids and a happy family. Hugs..
Wow! How horrible. I cannot imagine what would make an 11 year old feel like he would need to die...at that age, we still don't really know what's going on. I will keep this family in my prayers.
Whenever I see Trisomy 18 I just inwardly moan because it IS so bad. There are babies who live but they rarely make it to 1. One of the girls in my SS class has a cousin who gave birth to a little girl with Trisomy 18. One of her prayers was to share this little girl with her family and friends...poppy lived for around 6-8 hours, just long enough for everyone to see her. The mom has a web site where she talks about finding out the baby had T18, her pregnancy and thoughts during it, the birth/death, and how she's handling it afterwards. I don't know if that would be helpful or encouraging for your friends, but here is the link
http://poppyjoy.blogspot.com/
Hope you get to feeling better soon! Pinched nerves can be miserable.
Hi Linda...is there anything that I can do to help you out? I'm sorry that you have a pinched nerve. It's hard hurting when you have so much to do. I'm so sorry for the family of the child that commited suicide and for your friend whose baby has the birth defect. I know you must be hurting for them too.
Suicide at 11, that is just the saddest thing. My oldest grandgirl is 10, I can't imagine her taking her own life. Also sorry to hear about your problems! Gosh Linda, that's a lot to deal with. Thinking about you.
Hey Linda
I'm so sorry I hadn't read this sooner. I can't imagine what troubles an 11-year-old so deeply that they choose suicide over the confidance (is that a word?) of a best friend to share with them their troubles. Oh, my heart just breaks to read that. I'm so so sorry.
And then the other . . . I will keep that couple in my prayers. My friend, Joy's, second baby had an omphalocele. It was heartwrenching.
Take care of yourself and that body of yours!
God damn, that's horrible. I can't believe that. When I was 11, I had all these thoughts about killing myself. I remember pacing back and forth in my room thinking about it. For the most stupid reasons. I grew out of it a year later. My parents have no idea. Nobody knows. I haven't thought about those memories in years, but reading about that little kid makes me feel so lucky.
I am sorry to read such bad news. It does remind us that when we have troubles, it could be worse and we should be thankful. I just can't imagine what those parents are going through. I don't want too. I just can't go there.
I hope you feel better soon and that the meds and therapy helps:)Take care of you and your lil sweeties!....And yeah I guess the hubby too ;-) LOL!
Happy Belated Birthday!
I was so tied up getting my PMP, I completely blanked on your birthday. This is like 2 years in a row. I suck.
I hope it was a happy one.
It has been 4 months since your last post! How're you doing gal?
Wow, what a week, so sorry to hear of the sad news.
Tomorrow the sun will shine again :)
Post a Comment
<< Home